What I'm present to this morning isn't the decades of giving away my power to others, dimming myself or taking responsibility for the peace and happiness of others around me. It isn't in HOW to fix it, reclaim anything or stand up for myself. It's in staying FULLY in the NOW and asking in each moment, how would the most powerful piece of me respond?
We all know spam when we see it in our inboxes... it repulses us with promises of making money overnight and specials on botox or enhancements of some sort. They are overt messages that are un-apologetically about selling us something whether we want it or not.
And then there are the subtle spammers... the ones who are so insidious that they hide their messages. The ones who insist on always bringing the conversation back to themselves and what they are selling. The ones who post comments on other people's threads and say "that's what I do... you should check out my page", the ones who become an online connection and immediately ask you to like their page or get you on their list, the ones who can't help adding some sort of social proof into all of their conversations - either by name dropping or by saying things like 'in my book or blog I talk all about that'.
It's the intention behind the message that is the important piece here. You KNOW when someone is spamming you simply because the energy they are giving off is 'get', even when it's in the disguise of 'give'. Here, let me give you this thing so that I can GET your email, like, money, whatever. "I'm going to prove to you that I'm awesome so you'll admire and like me and buy into me". That's repulsive in an entirely different way…
I'm not going to point my finger at you alone. I've been guilty of that too. I can tell that when something is triggering me it's time to share the mirror... where am I more concerned with getting? When am I rushing the relationship too fast to get the business rather than playing the long game?
See in the long game the rules change. In the long game you don't have to prove yourself or sell yourself. In the long game, people give you likes because they REALLY like it. They know you because you've taken the time to get to know them. In the long game, relationship is king - not who I know or how much I know. Not the numbers of how big my mailing list is or how many fans I have.
I can NEVER be a spammer if I'm curious about the person in front of me, if I take the time to get to know them. If I don't care about YOU FIRST, then why the hell would you care about me?
The short game is fun because it's immediate and we feel like we're making 'progress'. But the long game? That's not progress, it's satisfaction. It's the sexier choice for me…
I'm really NOT a marketer. That's where we stray from our path and purpose AND especially our passion. I'm a COACH. Everything else just doesn't matter. When we become 'Internet Marketers' first, our powerful 'why' disappears. I coach one person at a time so there is nothing more important than connecting with the next one person in front of me
BTW - if you'd like to listen into the call itself and dig into Empathic Awesomeness, go here. It's my gift for you.
Tested... sometimes we are tested. The Universe asks me "What is your resolve? How much more can you stretch and expand?" Some of our greatest tests are how we respond to those who would teach us our greatest lessons... these are 'growth opportunities'. But you know, sometimes I get mad. Sometimes tears run down my cheeks uncontrollably. Sometimes I feel small and powerless. Sometimes it's not a lesson I really want to take on. Sometimes it's the same lesson with a different name.
Those are the moments I know I need to breathe. To remove myself from my life and get grounded & refuel spiritually. And that's how I know that I've passed the test - not when I fly through the challenges without the emotions or tears or whatever comes up, but when I recognize the imbalance and pause long enough to recalibrate.
Recalibration is tough.
And, it's simply another test. Can I take the chaos in my life and still connect with my inner voice to write and create? I don't know but I plan on grading on a curve...
What do you do to recalibrate? What tests are you going to dive into this week?