The myth of progress and stepping outside of our comfort zone...
It mystifies me that the self-development world is so enamored with feeling discomfort.
We've all heard it - the idea that in order to do something great we have to stretch beyond our comfort zone. For many years, I thought that was true, constantly seeking that next thrill of doing something scary. Everything was just outside of where I currently was so I'd have to keep challenging myself all the time - and that's exhausting.
And then I realized that it didn't have to be true, that it could be a part of an old paradigm that I didn't have to strive for.
I object to the idea that something has to scare you to help you expand. That if you don't feel the fear then you're doing something wrong.
Because when we're using our intuition, the boldest things we can do are the things we are SURE about.
We KNOW that it's our next step. Fear is not, nor should it really ever be the measurement of how we live our highest and deepest calling. Why would we actively seek that which is low vibration in order to grow?
I get that most people don't mean it that way, that they are referring to that feeling of excitement or anticipation.
But that's NOT fear.
And perhaps the thrill of something new can be intimidating and scary but that's still no reason to live your life always seeking things that scare you.
Listen - get quiet. Really really quiet.
Sometimes you get ideas that are really really big and they cause your heart to beat a little faster.
When we stop there then yeah, we're pausing in the emotion of what is big and seemingly impossible.
Because behind that is an energy that is nothing like fear.
It's a knowing.
It's a calling.
It's this feeling like, yep, that's what's next.
There's nothing other than you and that feeling that this is why you're here on this planet in this moment. That this is what you're meant to do next. That this is, for now, your thing.
And when you simply show up and surrender to that feeling of knowingness, you will be literally guided step by freaking step along the way.
The only thing scary about that is being programmed that to be of value it has to feel scary.
There is nothing of value in the fear.
There is everything to be gained in the surety of taking your next step.