Last week one of the most amazing coaches and mentors, Debbie Ford, died. Debbie Ford has been a driving force in the world of self growth, specializing in her Shadow Work and her most recent book Courage about her process driven approach to conquering our fears, accepting our flaws and tapping into our potential. And here's the thing - it was published at a time when she needed more courage than ever - in the middle of her 2 year fight against Cancer.
It brings tears to my eyes when you think that this person who has conquered so much in her life and has taught millions of people to step up and love themselves and shine was in the background suffering.
Every day we are confronted with hundreds of choices that either make us feel confident and strong or rob us of the things we desire the most. When we lack confidence, we feel unworthy of having what we want, of speaking the truth, of making decisions that improve our lives. When we feel weak, helpless, or powerless, we lack the strength to ward off the thoughts of defeat, negativity, and fear that fill our minds and prevent us from moving forward and living in harmony with our deepest desires.
For decades, Debbie Ford has been helping people break free from the emotional baggage that has held them hostage. In Courage, Debbie Ford provides a life-altering path to discovering confidence and authentic self-expression. By learning to accept all of who we are, including our histories, our flaws, our misgivings, our weaknesses, and our fears, we discover that what keeps us stuck and feeling weak is nothing more than an illusion of the past. By showing us how to be confident, stand in our strength, and feel great about ourselves, a new self emerges with the power to accomplish anything. Introducing seven guiding principles, Ford expertly leads readers out of the common pitfalls of fear and insecurity and into the strength, power, and freedom of a courage that has been present all along.
She was in fact coaching what she knew intimately which is why her messages made such an impact. They were authentic and tested. You knew that if it worked for her it could work for you.
Even after a lifetime of teaching her calling her life was not perfect. And neither is yours, or mine or all of the other people that we compare ourselves to each and every day. "I want to be just like her" will never happen because what you want to be like is the public persona. It's not reality. Like Debbie they can just as easily be in the background suffering.
Things in our life derail even the enlightened.
And we have two choices: Keep putting on the face that you have it all together or draw on the pain and the mistakes and the Shadows like Debbie did and teach from that space. Learn from that space.
Thank you Debbie Ford, Queen of Shadow Work, for your inspiration that I hold in my heart and in my coaching practice.
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