I'm not a factory.
I'm not automated or optimized.
I'm not willing to stand down from my business and let the information be the 'way'.
I'm not willing to sacrifice quality for quantity.
But every day I see FACTORY MODELS getting fame and fortune and notoriety. I see people signing up for very expensive programs only to be treated like another number. I see people paying for systems and programs, classes and products that all have a formulaic map to follow. Awesome for them...for those who pay and get paid, for people finding their own paths.
And yeah, some days I wish I could be JC Penny's or Target - they sell everything to anyone.
But I'm not.
I'm an exclusive boutique that people need to make an appointment with to come in and play.
Sometimes it gets a little lonely. Sometimes I want to play like I'm a Macy's or Nordstrom, perhaps a little more expensive than Target but truly the same principle at the core...but again - I'm not. I'm a highly curated store with limited wall and shelf space and I'm selective about what goes in my business.
Which sometimes makes me wish for a bigger space...
Which also makes me feel like that'd just be more to dust...
I don't like dusting.
The thing is - because I choose to operate my business in intimate ways, to work with only a FEW people and to make everything I do personal and special, most people don't know I'm here or don't know what I do. It's not a bad thing - just an observation. I'm not flashy or BIG. I'm surrounded by large conglomerates or by people busily building a conglomerate or by people pretending to be one.
I'm not them.
I don't pretend to be them.
I'm picky and personal and bespoke and not everyone likes me (although they really should...). Less is sooooo much more for me. One or two is sexier than 10,000. Having personal conversations is so much more fulfilling than selling some class on line.
I keep having to remind myself that I do business differently. I am enraptured by simple even when I work like hell to complicate to fit in - only to remember...
...that not fitting in is what I do best.
Cheers for my fellow boutiques, for independently defining and fiercely curating your own business experience. Sending love, freedom, independence and a willingness to pave the road less seen.
I promise you, you don't need to speak to pain to sell a product or service. It's lower vibratory and unnecessary to success. I habitually cross off 'fear' or 'pain' or 'struggle' because we don't need to play there.
It doesn't mean my clients are perfect and don't have things they would like to expand, internal or externally. But I don't have to dwell in shadow and act like some magical beacon with all the answers either.
Speak to fear and pain, & attract people who are coming from fear and pain.
Speak to possibility and potential, & attract people who are coming from possibility and potential.
You get to choose where the language and energy your business comes from and goes to.
Perhaps the formulas dictate that fear sells. It does - to those who are fear-filled. I choose to work with those who are not driven by fear, but by a higher calling - so I speak to THAT. Where I come from creates who comes in. My language assumes that yeah, we might have fear but we don't need it in this conversation at all.
Please stop pandering to lack and limitation.
To create a world of unlimited possibility we need to speak to those who speak in unlimited ways.
I'll be honest - I wasn't going to post this publicly. I was going to post it in a private mastermind I am a part of. Because it feels braggy - and it is - because it's a celebration - because it's about me. But yes, I was a rock star and in my zone of genius this past weekend, so I'm sharing here instead of in private:
Here's what happened last weekend...my own intuitive spiritual coachy mentor author publisher strategist totally SHINED. It was so much fun to sit there and hold space as my clients cried and panicked and celebrated and FELT their creations, as we took the big paper and pens and journals and cards and laid it all out, as they sat there and suddenly the entire book was there in front of them confronting all they are, with it's hopes and dreams and expectations, with the nakedness of what creating something worth creating looks like.
There is an organic deep personal way in which I guided them through this process.
And then we wrote.
And more came up.
I pushed them to get out of their heads and into their hearts.
I pushed them to dump their author voice and get real.
And magic is coming out.
This was so much fun for me - and I can't wait to do another in a couple of months.
What I learned was how much I value giving personal attention, and how apparent it was that only 3 authors at a time is right. And that I cannot help someone write the same way without spending those 3 days with them, so no more stand alone 6 month program - just retreat followed up by program. They are one.
And I learned how much fun it was to spoil them. To make their life easy so all they had to do was grow and write.
This was a good experiment - refining it as I go. The site is revised and feels really good.
Oh and my third book was completed this weekend and I'm in the final draft, waiting to go proofreading and design.
I'm aware of my head wanting to go 10 steps down the line. And my heart actively slowing it all down.
Sitting here realizing that I'm already ready to do another retreat... how is that possible when I just finished one right?
So I'm planning it now for some time in June. It it gorgeous here in Temecula that time of year, even if it starts getting a wee bit hot. I'm only opening up 3 spots...
The details (other than the date) are up and ready...http://www.writingthedamnbook.com/write--publish.html
Not a lot of photos of us from Day 3 because it was filled with the click clack of keyboards and Salsa Guitar piped in the background, with the occasional sound of tears or excitement or questioning. Also fuzzy robes and slippers and no bras...
Here's what I discovered: that this required many sides of me to engage all at once...intuitive, coach, mentor, peer, editor, publisher, writer, strategist, visionary. There was never a moment in 3 long exquisite days where I wasn't using them all.
And I'm not tired but energized from opening up so much. I understand now how different the reality was from my vision and moving forward I will only invite 2 or 3 authors at a time. Because that level of love and attention is what I love giving, I've always been one to value personal and smaller groups...which also means that these first two got a smoking deal.
The two women who came brought incredible projects to the table and we have a plan and timeline in place to publish their books by September. For the next 6 months I get to continue to engage all parts of me to help shepherd these books into the world.
In other news, I also finished writing one of my books this weekend too, "Writing The Damn Book". I've got my team ready to dive in and publish that in the next few weeks!
So I'm back from the vines... Looking forward to doing it all over again, filled with gratitude and love and really good food and wine.
Day 2 brought breakdowns and breakthroughs. Writing a book requires a new level of you to truly be that message you're bringing into the world. It also brought out more big paper until finally, we broke out the laptops and the afternoon was spent with the clicking and clacking of keyboards.
Oh and the word for the day was "mentalbate" (or mentalbation)
We also witnessed a wedding outside of our balcony that brought in fits of laughter before going down to the secret lounge in the cellar to relax and unwind and listen to some live music.
I am deeply grateful for this experience, for these women and their creations and what they are teaching me. My own book 'Writing the Damn Book' took on a new life and tone as I was writing in it yesterday too because of this weekend.
One more day until we are released back into the world, creations in hand. Today we will be diving into the writing, using the most beautiful maps, waiting to be fleshed out.
Laughing my ass of trying so hard to go through a guided meditation. It's the kind of meditation I am MOST suckish at. I just follow images (if I receive any) as they come and it feels like I'm forcing it when I follow the guidance. It makes the monkeys in my mind go WILD... which is NOT meditative in any way. So I don't do them often.
I connect with my guides and inner voice my simple deep breath, some music and closed eyes. I'm usually done in 10 minutes or so.
Or I write.
But I don't do the guided visualization thing.
How do you connect?
I'm 2/3 of the way through with writing my next book 'Writing The Damn Book' and I stalled. Because I rode through the first two sections with ease...all about how to set up to write the book, and then writing the actual book, on consistence and fears and overcoming those obstacles that come up when a book is on the horizon.
I struggled a little bit when it came to the third section, all about different ways to publish your book and the things I know about self-publishing. It felt unsexy. It felt like 'just the facts ma'am'.
It's when I felt the slow down in creativity.
So I couldn't even start the 4th section...about sharing your work with the world aka marketing it. I had sections on funnels and landing pages and it feel to 'brain' oriented. Yes I can share tons and tons of knowledge here. But why did I stutter?
Because it's not how I naturally operate.
What are the energetics behind sharing your work with the world? That feels sexy.
So I had to question, what would feel really fun to share here?
And I realized that I do things differently. There are thousands of resources from way better marketing minds than me.
But no one is talking about love - about creating ways to share your message in a loving way, in a way that people gravitate to without all the hoopla. So I'm back in the swing of writing, understanding that this doesn't have to be the 'smart' book that proves I know what I'm talking about (which is totally a part of every author's journey you know...that proving stage).
I can relax and let the book unfold even in the sections that are more mental...
We all have an internal guidance system that informs us when we are off course, when something is out of alignment - and it's a FEELING state. The more in tune we are with our feelings and our nudges the easier it becomes to identify what needs adjustment.
If we are feeling deep contentment, joy, love, gratitude, it's our Inner Council's way of letting us know that we're On Purpose, that we are working in harmony with our highest selves.
If we are feeling striving, discontentment, confusion, unsurity, or when we are conducting mental masturbation by recycling all of the stories that we tell ourselves, we are Off Purpose.
We have a Source-Wired guidance system naturally built into our consciousness, one that gets us to wherever we are going with ease and grace. We can take steps every single day towards that feeling of joy by walking the path that fulfills us the most.
Where do you feel constricted? Where do you feel the ease? It's a choice to feel either way. It's as simple as that.
You know that point in your business where you've reached a certain level of success and you're sitting there thinking - okay, What's my next level?
I'm there. Again.
And I've been responding to the question mentally. I've been craving strategy and action steps. I've been using 'rational thought' in my business, making mental plans. I've been focused really hard on the HOW.
And that's fine.
For a Muggle.
But I'm not a Muggle am I?
Which means that good stuff isn't going to happen magically if I deny my own magic, right?
So pause... what created my business so far? What level of ease and energetics did I implement to get me to where I am?
The question to myself then became not what I can DO, but how can I play with energy more... Can I conduct a grand experiment with my life that looks like having a million dollar month without striving or hard work?
It feels impossible.
It sounds impossible.
What would happen if I allowed an unlimited amount of energy flow through me, around me and out into the world?
What kind of impact would that create?
What would that create in my life?
The life of my family?
The lives of my friends and you my soul sisters?
The lives of my clients?
The life of my business?
It's not a million dollar month that's important. It's how do I play with energy in unlimited ways?
The thing is - when I say a million dollar month it triggers a response in me that says 'magic can't create that', That it'd be complicated and hard work and that's a limiting belief on what energy really is right?
So it's not the million dollar month that's sexy to me. I couldn't care less if I created that specifically or not. What's fascinating to me is the idea that using 'only energy' feels finite - that there's a limit to how far I can go until I have to muggle it, that I'll have to hustle, or until someone persecutes me or something like that.
It's that line of comfort. Using energy to -here- is safe but -out there- it looks completely different.
So I'm wondering what's really on the other side of that line. It's why I've been in a mental space of 'what's more', 'what's next'. But it's not what's more out there - it's what's more inside and I'm going to work with pure energy to see what I can clear to create unlimited possibility.
So I'm asking you...do you know where your energetic limits are? Do you know where you're fully surrendering and where you're muggling your way through?
If you have a next level of success, what do you believe about what it will take to get there?
And are you willing to leave that belief behind and move into unlimited possibility?
I'm opening up a rare spot in my private roster for a new client, one who knows this is their path, this unconventional way of BEING in their business, this spiritual warrior who has suddenly realized that success is a never ending path and is wondering if there's a different way, a more intuitive easy one.
I truly am looking for the right one person who is ready to raise their energetic vibration first, trusting that the next level of whatever-dom happens only when we lead from our magic. If this is you and you're ready to make a significant investment and have me walk the path along side you, shoot me a message and we can talk.
And regardless if this is for you or not then I beseech you to pause and start asking yourself - if I grew nothing this year but my energetic vibration, what would change in my life? my relationships? my business?