How are you filling your cup today?
I returned to my home from Austin at 1:49am Sunday fully expecting waking up early to take my son to rugby tryouts.
Hurry up and sleep.
We leave Wednesday am (shit... tomorrow) for a 10-day trip to the U.K.
Hurry up and get all the work done.
Hurry up and buy the last minute supplies.
Hurry up and clean and do laundry and unpack and then repack.
Cup looking a bit dry...
I cannot create a magical trip from empty.
Accept hubby's offer to take the boy and stay home to nap and slowly clean and unpack and feel spaciousness. ReEntry.
Everything that must get done will get done. Go meditate first.
The extras on the list can float away. Play with the pups.
If I forget to pack it, it can be purchased. Reframe to release the pressure.
Fill the cup.
Over and over.
We're been talking a lot in MasterSoul University about trust and the place of NEUTRAL.
In that spot, in that moment, when you're detached from the results and detached from the stories of why you can't or why isn't it happening faster, or why you're not good enough, that's when surrender kicks in and the magic can flow.
Releasing both the self doubt and the visionary expectations allows you to drop into the present tense.
And right NOW, it just IS TRUE.
Where can you trust yourself more int he process so you can let it all go and surrender to what is totally inevitable success?
Let me ask you something... how are your beliefs and your "need" to help getting in the way of REALLY supporting others?
What would happen if other people's dreams had nothing, zip, zero, nada to do with YOU & your opinion or experience?
How would you respond if you entered into the conversation without any preconceived ideas of how that person should live their life or create their business?
Sometimes people are excited. They want to share. They are vulnerably letting you see their desire...
They aren't asking for your opinion, your beliefs, or your 7-step-system. They aren't broken because they want something that didn't work for you, or that you've heard isn't a good way to go. Even if you know them so well and have their best interest in mind...
...don't give it to them.
Give them real true support by saying 'way to go, I believe in you, let me know if I can support you in any way.'
That's true best interest.
Real support looks a lot like being really present with the other person and trusting that they know what's best for their path.
And if there's something that you really, really want to add, for goodness sake, ask their permission first. "Hey, I noticed something here - are you open to feedback at the moment?" Don't assume they want to hear or are ready to hear your brilliance...
I was more excited for my client than I was for myself...
So last week while I was celebrating reaching #1 and loving and responding all of the beautiful comments from my latest book, I got a message from my client that literally made me scream and shout and cry in pure joy.
It's one of those moments where everything seems worthwhile...
See, she got a book deal.
But not just any book deal. When we started on this journey a year ago she'd submitted her book to several publishers and got nos. In fact, she spent more time writing proposals than working on the actual book.
So, when she came to my retreat, it was because she'd finally claimed that the book would be published no matter what.
It wasn't an easy journey, leaning further and further into her discomfort - between myself and her other coach, we didn't accept an ordinary book.
And it became an exceptional book.
So exceptional that last week she got this "Great news! Our editorial board met just now and very heartily endorsed your new book. We will send the Agreement very soon. People really liked the Hero’s Journey model, clear and practical content, stories and your background in this work...We are all eager to work with you on this book and expect great things!"
Her response.. "I am struggling to put into words, the gratitude that I feel in my heart right now."
And her news was SO MUCH BETTER THAN REACHING #1 for myself. Watching this project come full circle...there are no words to express how amazing it feels to witness.
So this is a simple brag to tell you, that everything we imagine is possible... even when it feels impossible so you take a different path and wind up exactly where you had most hoped to be.
And to tell you how much I admire her and how much she rocks.
And to tell you how much I clearly rock too since I will forever take partial credit for this particular miracle in action.