I'm laughing at my inability to take multiple trips to the car when I get home - you know what I mean. We get home and try to bring everything from our day inside all at once. I'm talking on the phone, grabbing my bag which has my laptop and life inside, oh don't forget my bottle of water and the mail, there's that bag of trash from the back seat and the bag of dog food for the pup. And if I balance it just right I can even grab my sweater I took off last weekend that shoved in the trunk. And looking like a homeless circus performer I try to unlock my front door. Fumbling for my keys which were just in my hand but somehow I can no longer find, I invariably drop something.
I could have taken a couple of smaller trips to my car. I mean it's seriously only a few extra steps. But CLEARLY, Superwoman does not need to do that. I can carry everything at once like I'm magic and arrive in one piece, unwrinkled and perfectly balanced.
Or I'm simply delusional.
So let's think about it - how many times do we do this to ourselves? Not just physically but emotionally as well. We believe that because we are able to prop one more item on the top of our load (or our to-do list) we should - that it will save us time and energy to carry it all at once instead of bringing in one or two manageable things at a time and going back for the rest. When the truth of it is 9 times out of ten we will drop something (and usually it's the most precious things - like the phone that we're talking on) and then we'll have to set everything down to pick it back up again. And it takes more effort and concentration to create this balancing act .
So just for today I challenge you to take on a smaller load. Trim your list down to the top 3 things and tackle them first - and then take a freaking break. Don't pile on more just because you can. And once that first round is done and your hands are empty, then go back out to the car to get more. Carrying more than we can is a formula for failure so stop it - do what you can and go back for the rest.
I'm a huge supporter for learning new things and taking courses and reading books to continually fuel my fire. I try to do it daily to stay in an inspired, creative place. But every once in a while I notice myself going through a 'grasping' period. These are times when I become a serious addict - listening to multiple free webinars and ordering a plethora of books, sometimes to the point that the things on my to-do list are set aside. And then I get on a huge high and seriously start thinking about signing up for just about every single program out there because I 'need' it to get to the next level of my business or life. I feel as if I don't have enough knowledge inside to succeed and if I spend a few hundred or even thousand dollars (that isn't in the budget btw) then I will have the secret sauce to achieving all of my dreams. Sometimes I get so wrapped up in the promotion that I can't figure out how I could NOT take this next class, which by the way guarantees that I will be making six figures this year regardless of the fact that I don't even have a credit card that goes up to the amount of tuition. And my heart drops when I get to the bottom of their sales page to find that this program is worth $30,000 but today it's on sale for ONLY $4,997 which you can make payments on. And on the flip side sometimes they don't cost hardly anything so I buy it hoping that it will be the panacea that sees me through.
And if I can't take the course because of finances or time, I feel like I'm not quite good enough. Like if I just had that once piece of knowledge from this class I could succeed but without it I'm lost. What is really happening here? I mean normally I'm selective about what I take and read. And I space it out so I can absorb and really implement the lessons.
So when I'm on a learning frenzy I have to pause and figure out why. Why do I feel like I don't know enough? Why do I feel like I can't figure it out organically? That I have to find an expert to tell me how?
I'll tell you why - because I'm feeling uncomfortable. I am pushing myself past my usual boundaries. I've jumped off of the cliff and I am trying desperately to grab hold of any vine I see swinging by. Magic life rafts that are surely worth the price of admission right? I'm in that space right now as I keep stepping towards building my business. I have butterflies every day - and it's awesome, and unbalancing and different and uncomfortable all at the same time.
Which means I have to breathe. I have to look at each program for what it is. Dissect each promise made by these experts and see if there isn't something there that I already know. If it's a maybe or a yes or a 'I could probably figure that out myself', then I cross it off of the list as a benefit to me. And then I go one step further and try to figure out why I feel compelled to buy. What prompted me to sign up for this particular list? What did their sales page say? Look at all of their marketing - is it something I can learn from? If it compelled me to want to click the buy button is it something I can replicate? Where is everything on their site placed and do I like it? What about the colors, the feeling? How often did they touch me before asking for the sale? Etc... And once I look at the course as a business person, not as an emotional consumer and I STILL want to take the course then I know it's for real - not just because I am grasping for straws.
The real lesson though is that by analyzing the product I think I have to have and then rejecting it because I feel I can do fine without it, not because I can't afford it or don't have the time, but because I can live without it, I actually feel more confident about myself. I start reinforcing the idea that I do have my own answers and I do trust myself, and if I choose to take a class then I know it's to INSPIRE me, NOT to save me. There is NO class that can do that - not mine, not anyone's. Learn to grow - not to survive.
'If something doesn't feel right, it probably isn't. Listen to your intuition.'
I was flipping through Tumb.lr this morning and this picture popped up and I had to stop and smile because because it just drills down my next several paragraphs into 2 sentences (and until I get a different editor you're going to continue to get long winded).
So here's the thing - we all have voices in our head. Don't deny it. Some of us are crazier than others but there is a whisper that comes from our hearts, that nagging feeling in the back of our minds, or a feeling in our gut, when we KNOW something isn't right. My little voice is pretty pushy and in fact sometimes when I ignore it, she dumps the whisper and starts flat out yelling at me. Nice right? The reason my intuition thinks it's in charge and gets bossy is because I give it a lot of power. I trust and depend on that little voice all day long and it never steers me wrong. I hear everything from 'turn left' to 'buy this book' or 'go check out this place'. You name it and I hear it.
Am I psychic or just crazy? No more than anyone else. We all have the ability to tap into this wisdom that we have inside of us. Intuition isn't something mystical or obscure. We get signs all day long but we have to train ourselves to see them and ultimately to trust them.
My friend was looking for a job and she'd been getting a few rejections but finally got an offer. There was something about the job that just didn't feel right. She told me so. And she also went on to change her gut feeling from "This isn't the right place for me and I get a weird vibe from the manager" into 'I'm just nervous and uncomfortable with change". Now she was legitimately scared and uncomfortable with stepping into something new and I'm so proud of her to recognize that. But she ignored her gut reaction to the job offer and took it anyhow. After a few weeks she started seeing what her intuition told her initially - that there was something just not right. The position didn't challenge her and the manager was a little shady with all kinds of drama going on inside of the business (and she doesn't do drama). Exactly the same thing that her intuition told her prior to taking the job. So feeling as though she had wasted 4 weeks of her life, she quit.
LIstening to your intuition saves you time and money and energy. Every time. It helps you grow and shows you your path. Sometimes it drives you in a direction that seems to make no sense at all until one day all the pieces fall into place. And the more you blindly follow it - even if you think you're crazy to be listening to some voice inside of your head - the more you tell yourself that you trust. You trust and believe in yourself. There is no better way to build yourself up than to actually follow your own advice.
So I challenge you, just for today, to listen very carefully to the voices in your head. Don't argue with them or discount them. If you get the nagging feeling to make a phone call when you're supposed to be doing something on your list, pick up the phone. See where it takes you.