You know how you feel like you could be doing so much more with your life?
That nagging feeling like whatever you're currently doing isn't big enough or doesn't match the big world changing missing you're supposed to be on?
Even if you're currently walking on the path of that mission there's this pervasive feeling like there's more?
Because there is.
THERE IS ALWAYS ALWAYS MORE
Even when we are totally satisfied we know there could be more.
Do you think Jesus died thinking he'd done everything he was meant to do? Maybe he didn't write that book on 'Greed and Changing Your Money Story' or 'How To Rise Above Bad People' or 'How to Grow Your Fan Base Through Word Of Mouth'... Do you think there wasn't one moment when he thought - what more God?
There will always be more.
There will always be a bigger piece of the puzzle to solve.
There will always be the next greatest version of us.
We are never the same 2 moments in a row.
We become MORE every second.
Sometimes we chase after the MORE with all our strength and intensity and sometimes we deny it exists. It's there though, no matter how fast or how slow we progress towards it.
It's not in the future someday we will become more. We are becoming more something all of the time.
So the question becomes not 'how much more' or 'how to I get/become more' but rather 'How much more am I willing to BE today?
Believing you can do it and believing you can KEEP doing it are two totally different conversations in self trust.
Believing you CAN requires a 'what do I have to lose' attitude, bravery in the face of an unknown, a leap of faith and fingers crossed that your experiment succeeds.
When we GET what we were after, we get a taste of the possibilities. We can see the physical manifestation of what we were seeking....
And then there's that 'oh shit' moment buried within the joy of achievement.
Oh shit... what if I screw this all up?
Oh shit... what if that was just a fluke?
Oh shit... what if this gets harder and I have to get staff and be serious and treat this like it's real?
Oh shit... what's next?
Now you have proof that you can do it. You can no longer get lost in the excuses that kept you safe before. You're no longer a beginner.
YOU'RE IN THE MIDDLE OF YOUR SELF-CREATED STORY
Success brings new conversations to the table
Different layers of old blocks show up.
New challenges emerge.
That whole 'scared that we're already shiny' conversation becomes really really real.
It requires a new kind of self trust
It requires new levels of loving kindness
It requires you to see yourself as different from how you've ever been before
It requires deeper levels of knowingness
Just because you're not new, just because you're succeeding... doesn't mean you don't need support or guidance. Hell no - this is a different game entirely.
Because what got you past those beginning steps isn't the same thing as what will help you elevate your middle game.
We get to create NEW rules
We get to explore NEW ceilings to destroy
We get to expand into NEW possibilities and NEW realities and NEW wealth
It gets a whole different kind of messy
So I'm calling you in - yes, YOU in the middle. The ones who are already one with their business, who have those first levels of self trust and are ready to do MORE.
The ones who 'GET IT' and are expanding further and stretching even more than what once seemed possible.
I've got an experience created just for you.... your next steps await
You're not playing small. Please stop saying that... it just denigrates your self trust.
You're playing your life in the way that you've chosen. You can change the rules any time. NOT because you're doing something wrong but because you want to do something else.
You don't need to step into your power.
You already have all the power you need... just let it out a little more.
You don't need to cultivate more confidence.
You need to stop breaking down the confidence you have by telling yourself you're playing small and you're not stepping into your power.
There's nothing wrong with you.
I was talking with a client and we felt into this piece. We felt into the guilt and the shame brought about by reading all these posts about being MORE than who she is.
She is perfect. She is on a mission already, one that will change the lives of millions of people. Pretending she isn't capable of that is her only downfall.
It serves no one to pretend that you need to be something more than you already are.
Dust off your wings, they've been waiting to soar.
Reach into your heart and find the glitter bomb waiting there to explode.
Pull the pin.
There is nothing small about you.
Just a bunch of people using tag words of 'become' and 'step into' and 'small'. I've used them too. And I will consciously work to stop using them.
Because it's not helpful.
I told my client that yes, I'd love for her to make more money than she's making and have all these things on her list but truly, if she left with ONE thing from working with me, it was a fully developed sense of SELF TRUST.
You have everything you need in this moment to succeed.
Do you trust yourself enough to say that without doubt?
"I should know better"
"I've already handled this so why are we having this conversation again?"
"I teach this stuff but I can't GET it myself"
"OMG there it is AGAIN!"
Talking with a client about these stories and blocks and issues. Yeah. They are like weeds that come back over and over again. We keep pulling them out and up they pop again. Stupid little things.
Here's the thing - there is always a next layer to uncover.
We don't just check things off the list and move on.
You know why?
Because you're never the same person 2 moments in a row.
We are always changing, always expanding and contracting.
Your heart doesn't say - okay I think I got this beat thing down, what's next?
Your lungs don't say - hey being full of air feels really good, let's just hold it forever.
We keep beating.
We keep taking air in and out.
We always grow.
Which means those weeds always come back.
We do get to notice them faster and faster.
We do get to be really great at picking them before they take root.
It's like wanting a red car and then seeing them everywhere... the more work we do on ourselves, the more we see the threads of it show up in different ways in different places.
We do get to do all of that without judging the fact that we have weeds in the first place.
We are human beings.
You'll never truly be finished with this list.. throw it out.
You don't need to feel shame, or beat yourself up, or feel like a fraud or unworthy because of the very natural way of being in the very real world.
Why am I blocking myself?
Why can't I just do this thing that I say I really want to do but don't?
Why can't I just succeed magically?
Why can't I allow myself to shine, speak up, show myself....?
Why? Why? Why?
You know what? WHO CARES?
I'm sure we all have some deep seeded painful story from our childhood, teen years, adulthood that scarred us in some way. We can sit here talking our asses off about how this pattern shows up for us and how powerful the story around it is.
The why isn't really important is it?
You know what IS important?
That you spend your energy NOT on figuring out why but that you MOVE FORWARD ANYHOW!!
The WHY only serves as a distraction from the thing we really want right now.
It's a diversion from the present tense.
If you're asking WHY it's because you're either living in a past that's already done or a future that scares the hell out of you.
WHO CARES WHY?
Don't fall into over-self-analysis-paralysis.
Stop trying to figure yourself out.
Too many layers for one lifetime to go through.
And we haven't even gotten into past-life whys...
I am building something amazing in my life in THIS moment.
I don't need to know why.
I just WANT to.
I might stumble.
I might stop.
I don't need to know why.
I just need to know that when I do, I'll not give a shit WHY, but that I'll make a choice that feeds me.
Stop asking why.
Just do or don't do.
Wait... why? Why do I need to keep calm? Why do I need to be well behaved and zen-like?
What if I want to scream, dance, laugh hysterically, light the world on fire? All these badges of being totally together all of the time are FAKE. Because I'm a woman and I'm not calm all of the time.
My body and soul have a rhythm.
They dance to many different beats, feet changing directions in a moment's notice.
One-Two-Three turns in to hair swinging head banging which turns in to a collapse on the floor to gain back my breath. My dance card is filled except when I decide to rip it up and dance on my own.
But no where on the dance card of my life does it have the instructions - KEEP CALM.
I can go slow.
I can do deeply grounded totally aligned.
I can do flow.
I can sprint.
I can stomp on the ground and kick up dust.
I can blow on the fiery embers of creation.
I can collapse.
I can release myself to the yummy ebb of that post creation cycle.
I can come to a grinding stop and sit in the void.
I can get angry or hysterical or irrational.
I can be disappointed in myself and in others.
I can let tears stream down my face.
I can love.
I can love fiercely and passionately like a wild bonfire fed with summer abandon.
I can love quietly and gently and wholly like looking at your child for the first time.
I can be lots of things to lots of people.
I can be lots of things to me.
I can even be calm if I so choose.
And I can also be all of that without someone telling me to calm the hell down.
If you're dreaming of more time or space to ____, guess what? You already have it. You have freedom to choose how you spend every moment of every day.
I remember as a young mother I used to hear moms complaining that they wish they had time to read but they just don't. That sentence was like nails on a chalkboard to my soul - because we ALL have enough time. It's a limited resource and we get to choose how we allocate it.
I'm not saying it always feels like that.
I'm not saying that the choice feels optional.
But it is.
And if we can realize that it is ALL choice, we can choose how we make every single decision.
We can go into them grudgingly, wishing to be doing something else.
We can internally desire freedom and space and feel trapped in what we've created in our life.
We can pretend that we're just too busy to crack open a book even though we say we want to.
Or we can take the story out.
We can choose to play 100% present in whatever we are doing.
We can choose to see a 5 minute break in the action as the ULTIMATE freedom and live those 5 minutes with wild abandon.
It might not be enough time to complete what you wanted, but miracles can happen in 5 minutes if you choose to believe.
You get to choose.
5 minutes to nap or simply sit and BE in that space 100%.
5 minutes to pick up the damn book and read one page or 10 at 100%.
5 minutes to shoot off a love letter to a potential client and POUR your heart into it 100%.
5 minutes to pick up the phone and call someone you miss and fill that gap their absence created 100%.
5 minutes to write a powerful post, to make reservations at that group you've been wanting to check out, to connect... to do whatever you wish you had time and space for at 100%.
Every second of every day can be as sacred as you choose.
Don't waste them and then wish you had more.
Miracles can happen in just 5 minutes.
Hell, miracles can happen instantaneously... are you looking to create them 100%?
I'm a brilliant STARTER. I love starting new things, new challenges. I've started multiple businesses, thousands of ideas, seventeen books, quite a few pieces of jewelry and a whole list of other things.
And then they sit there... I'll work on them for a while and then I'll lose interest because something new needs to get started. Once all of the minute little details start becoming important I get lost in the sea of mundane and I check out. The minutia bores the crap out of me.
For the past year I've been working on a book. Book #16 to be exact. Anyhow I was whining that I'd never finish writing that damn book. I have all this energy tied up in a project that is lingering, making it impossible to fully give 100% into anything because in the back of my mind I'd hear "work on your book", "you should be writing right now" and "you'll never finish anything".
I was filled with shame that it wasn't done yet.
I was filled with disappointment in myself.
I was filled with the fear that my life long dream of publishing a book was just a dream.
I was filled with avoidance looking for things to do other than sit down at my computer like a good little author.
And I was spending too much energy thinking about doing something rather than just flipping doing it.
Many of you witness me rise up last week in response to a challenge issued to my by my coach. He challenged me to write my book in one day... 'what if you only had one day to write this book? and what if that day was this week? tomorrow in fact?'
I thought 'that's impossible'. I've been working on this book forever and I just deleted over half of it a few weeks ago and you want me to do it in one day?
And then it dawned on me... anything I ever finished came with a crazy impossible timeline. I'd study for test walking into the exam room, I published 2 years of magazines on the day it was meant to be published month after month, I've filled the last spots of programs literally hours before we started. I'm GREAT at kicking things out when they HAVE to be done.
So I said yes.
I committed to sending the written copy of the full book to my editor by 3:00pm on Friday.
At 2:37pm, it was sent.
31,434 words done
WHAT IF YOU ONLY HAD 1 DAY?
The freedom I feel right now is so huge I can hardly explain, like a weight has been lifted from me soul.
So I'm passing along the question - what project is hanging over your head? What could you do if you only had 1 DAY? It doesn't have to be perfectly edited or ready to ship, but it's there and the heavy living is done... can you RISE UP with me? Let's play...
Words can call things in. They can be landing beacons for your dreams and desires.
AND words can keep things away. They can be internal defense mechanisms creating a moat between you and the thing you don't want.
And sometimes the words you're using to call things in are the very ones keeping them away.
If you don't like saying you coach people, then every time you say you do you send out repulsing energy even though you truly want to coach people.
If you don't like the word clients (because your relationship with clients in the past wasn't awesome), then why would you ever want to create clients even though it's the very thing you most want to do.
If you don't like the word sales then you will repulse yourself every time it's time for you to perform the act even though it's the very thing your business needs to succeed.
So use different words.
Replace Coach with Guide. Replace Client with Sister. Replace Sales with Invitation. Whatever the feel good words are for you... use those. Delete the words that make you contract. Replace them with the words that make your heart open and expand.
Words are powerful indicators of what we will receive in life.
Change the word, change the vibe... change the results. Every Single Time.