I've had this coaching blog for years... thoughts and rants and what I felt in the beginning was what I was supposed to blog about. I can trace my own personal progression as a woman and as an entrepreneur reading through them.
Someone asked me yesterday how I have posted at least 2 articles a month for years. What's your secret to writing so much and getting so many comments and likes?
So if you want to know how to write more then I ask - how can you NOT care about writing more? I populate my blog with a living record of my online journaling I do here - yep, I copy my Facebook posts as articles there on my blog. Why? So that I have a record of who I am and how I have progressed.
It's not a tool for my business, it's a tool for my life. I don't care that I have x many posts or that they are optimized for seo and I don't care how many hits I get (I stopped watching numbers years ago and I've succeeded at higher and higher levels since). I don't get a bunch of comments or likes on my blog.
I don't write for you. Sorry (not sorry).
I don't write for business.
I write to say the things I just feel like saying.
And sometimes I write about a new program I'm opening up or a spot on my coaching roster... because I FEEL like it, not because I feel like I should.
And sometimes I rant about NOT joining B-School (please avoid the marketing ploy).
And sometimes it's what pops into my heart at random moments.
Want to be a better writer?
Write horribly. Write with poor grammar. Write nonsense. But write from your heart.
Want to be a better blogger?
Think of it not as a piece of technology that will get you those magical clients but as a piece of your soul on display.
Want to post things on Facebook that everyone loves and comments on?
Stop trying so hard.
I've had profound posts that have only had a few likes. And sometimes that stings a little until I realize that the post is about ME not YOU, and then the numbers don't matter.
I don't write for likes, I write because I CAN.
The numbers don't matter. The amount of articles don't matter. The number of posts don't matter.
What matters is you and what writing does for YOU.
IF THE NUMBERS DIDN'T MATTER, WHAT WOULD YOU REALLY SAY?
You know all those courses that claim that you can follow steps a-b-c and suddenly you'll make money and be famous and clients will come tumbling out of the sky like mana from heaven? You're a smart person... do you really REALLY think it works like that?
Do you really think that next bit of something that someone else has is the secret sauce you've been missing?
Know what's missing?
AND I know it's not in that pre-recorded piece of whatever you're thinking of investing in.
Know where it is?
It's inside of you. That missing piece is a part of you and the crazy thing it is that it's not even missing! It's been right there this whole time.
So maybe that class is cheaper. Maybe it's all you think you can afford. Maybe you're craving that little easy button.
But it won't get you to where you really want to go... because that's an inner job. Elevate yourself internally at a soul level and the outer work becomes easier and easier. It's not about learning the latest marketing miracle tool. It's about learning that YOU are the greatest miracle tool.
Hire a coach.
Hire the coach you can't afford.
Think more of yourself than the cheap ass mass produced course work that people call coaching (that's not coaching people - it's an info product).
Be daring and dream big.
And invest at a daring big level.
Because if it's truly a dream worth going for, then really go for it.
The right coach is the secret sauce.
The more abundant my life becomes, I convince myself that I want very little still, that all my needs are fulfilled and it would be selfish to still desire more.
That I NEED less is true. I don't need to fill gaping holes in my consciousness, to make me feel prettier or richer or cooler or more free.
So what's the point of wanting more?
To which I reply who cares?
I LOvE wanting and desiring. Sometimes we deny even the thought of wanting extra. But that's lack and limitation isn't it?
There are no limits to what we can create in this world. Even if we have everything... We can still find something you want.
Even if it's as small as a cupcake (which is always on my list) or as large as a charitable foundation that gifts millions of dollars to repair struggling economies.
The point is that every creation on the planet starts with a WANT... A desire powerful enough that someone sets out to create it.
So every couple of months I sit down and write out 100 things that I want. And miracles happen. I've launched businesses and fed my soul from this list. I go back and change a few into I am creating statements. Some I never look at again simply because I wanted in that moment and not in this one. Some wants aren't important or things I can control or create.
That's okay. It's about allowing myself to simply dream. And dreams can change to world.
Can you allow your desires to be spoken into the world without shame or guilt? Experiment. Get to 100. See what changes...
I was challenged this week... I'm in the midst of a huge rebrand. I woke up, dumped my old site and launched the draft of my new one. There are quite a lot of revisions still to do but within 12 hours my entire business model changed.
After checking out the new site, my coach challenged me to write my stories - all my challenges and the path I've taken to get to my current point of success and to not forget the tears I shed along the way.
That wasn't where I was challenged however.
See because I share those stories ALL of the time. I'm happy to tell you about the times I've been on the floor in my closet having a meltdown. I live that publicly, out loud.
And then he paused, and looked me in the eye with the intensity that only he has, and asked "When do you share the stories of how fucking powerful you are?"
I believe that the air was vacuumed out of the room in that moment. My heart stopped pumping.
I don't share those stories. And further more, I don't even believe I have any.
I mean I know I'm powerful. I GET that.
But to tell stories of it? What does that even look like?
Why is it so natural to tell stories of the pain? Or of the insights? Or to take a stand against things? But to write about the pretty-shineyness of me? WTF?
In utter confusion I sat down for lunch, dazed and shaken, tears on the verge of creating a salty salsa soup. Having the support of two amazing coaches sitting with me, they helped me get it...
See I don't recognize the stories of power because those are the moments when I feel like whatever it is I was doing is so EASY.
It was EASY for me to this week dump my website and create a new one because I realize it was time for a whole new business model.
It is EASY for me to start business after business.
It was EASY for me to publish a magazine for 2 years with incredibly famous and renown coaches gracing the cover.
It is EASY for me to succeed and it is EASY for me to fail. Either one is awesome.
It is EASY for me to know that even if this new adventure I'm launching doesn't succeed, I can fill up one of my old group programs to create more income to keep me going at high levels.
It is EASY for me to build and lead large communities of like minded people.
It it EASY for me to lead.
It is EASY for me to drop into my intuition, to tell stories, to channel.
It is EASY for me to write and inspire others with my words.
It has also been easy for me to gloss over these things because they don't feel powerful, they just are who I am. I don't recognize them as powerful because I don't have to feel powerful to do them... doesn't everyone find these things to be easy? But they don't - they are my own personal superpowers.
I had no idea. And I'm still trying hard to believe it...
Where are you discounting your own power? Where are you thinking that it is so easy, what do you mean it's powerful? Brag time....
You know those next steps? The ones that are scary or make no sense? The ones that almost make you wish you weren't capable of dreaming so big?
Take the flipping step.
The reasons you're not taking them are probably just made up reasons anyhow.
The more successful you become, the bigger the dreams. And yeah, the bigger dreams are no less scary than that first big dream you went after...
Except you got that one so there's a precedence.
A word of warning however...
Once you've had a taste, it is no longer an option to sit back. You must risk it because to not is to deny your very nature. If you took that first step and then the next and the next you eventually become an addict... Addicted to the high of starting something new, more, bigger.
It's worth it.
And for those fellow addicts... High fives.
Don't hide behind the technology and then wonder what's going on.
Facebook, twitter, websites... they are all simply technology.
They are not a strategy, they are tools for expression.
YOU are the strategy. YOU are the expression.
The more powerfully you are willing to show up will reflect in how powerfully you are able to create clients.
Brace yourselves... B-School is opening up again. Thousands of would-be entrepreneurs paying for the secret formula for untold riches and success. Because one solution works for everyone right?
Let me preface this by saying that I have nothing against Marie or B-School and have seen it work for some.
AND I can tell you about how many people I have coached out of depression and self-un-worthyness after having attended programs like this. Tons of money spent and all they leave with knowing that there must be something wrong with them because it didn't work like the marketing promised them it would.
I get it - there's an allure for having a step-by-step WAY...
AND do you really feel that doing it like everyone else will help you stand out? Because if you're intuitive at all I'll tell you right now, this is the way of the mind and the ego... not the way of the soul. To create a soul-filled business you have to be willing to do things differently, in accordance with your highest vision and your heart's whispers...
... NOT BY JOINING SOMETHING THAT RELIES ON YOUR ABILITY TO FOLLOW DIRECTIONS.
Food for feeling into.