I'm a little stuck... see in the process of writing my book I created a great outline of everything I want to write to make sure I don't forget anything uber important and it makes it easier to sit down and write if I know where I'm going.
I've been staring at the section on Comparisonitis for over a week now. I know how much comparing yourself to others is harmful - either to yourself or to them. I can name a thousand times a day when I catch myself in the cycle and have to take a deep breath to redirect the monkeys in my brain. I fully and completely agree with Theodore Roosevelt when he said "Comparison is the thief of joy."
But I don't know how to write down the words for something that is so feelings-based, that is ingrained in every fiber of our lives whether we consciously know it or not. It's in our competitive nature to want to be better than others. It's in our self conscious nature to feel inferior others for one thing or another. It's self preservation to point out to ourselves all the ways we are superior. We notice these things everywhere, from the scuff on that woman's heels to the roots showing in her hair to that person's awesome website that makes you realize that you'll never, ever be able to have as good of a site as that to the fact that your friend looks better in those jeans than you and then back to omg, do they ever wash their car? We float in and out of "I'm better" and "I'm worse" within nano seconds without even skipping a beat.
How do I express the craziness of this pattern? It's like pinning down pieces of floating dust. Some of the thoughts that we have are so itty-bitty that most of them float by without us even registering that we had the thought in the first place. And some are so great big that they stop us in our tracks, distract us from our dreams, contaminate our day.
I want you to really understand what these thoughts, big or little, are doing to you and to your ability to be happy. I would like to tell you that you are enough. I need to give you a great big hug and then smack you upside the head. And I have to do it within the confines of one little section of typed words in a book that is meant to inspire...
I'm a little overwhelmed with the importance of conveying the cure for the disease Comparisonitis even though the cure is quite simple... but perhaps that's the trick to writing it down in book format. Perhaps I'm comparing my writing to what I think a book should be rather than just writing what I want to convey. Perhaps this blog post is the chapter I've been writing in my head. Comparing my thoughts to those of thought leaders I admire is forcing me to overcomplicate my words, to want to live up to their example instead of being the great writer I am.
So today I'm going to finish the section because I'm clearer now. I'm going to shed the Comparisonitis I didn't even realize I was involved in and just write. Writing gives me joy and taking it ever-so seriously because an author should do that is totally robbing me of the fun I have when I am typing...