You're sitting at the bar minding your own business and this guy walks up to you and asks for your phone number or worse, just goes straight in and asks to have breakfast with you (it's only 10:00 pm... you know what he's referring to). Dude at this time you can't even hear his name over the music and he wants what?
If you're several drinks in, this might sound like a good idea. It's not. Check with your friends and move on.
Then another guy comes up. He's got a drink in his hand for you, the same one you were just finishing so you know he took the time to order you what you liked. He tells you he likes your shoes. That's enough to make you want to ask him to breakfast. But hold on... he's not rushing. He asks to sit and you end up spending the next hour or so talking. Talking about who you are and what you want. And when it's time to leave he pulls out his calendar and asks if you're free for dinner sometime next week.
Hell yes you are.
Because he seduced you. He saw you. He took the time to get to know you before he took the next step.
So now, I have to ask - who are you showing up as in your business? Are you so busy trying to get your clients into bed with you that you're just rushing through the seduction? Buy this! Sign up for this! Be my Fan! Get my Newsletter! Come on... let's go!
Or are you slowing it down, taking the time to get to know your people? Ask them what their dreams are. Find out if they like red or white. Have a real conversation with you before you do anything else. Care more about them than you do about you. Notice their shoes. Don't rush to get people to become your 'fan'. No one needs numbers - everyone needs CONNECTION. Who are you connecting with in a real way? Don't be in a rush to 'process' - take your time and find the people behind the avatars, to meet in a real way the people who rush to hand you their cards.
Be the hot guy who sees you.