Received a powerful message last night from one of my clients... it was about lots of things but the impact on me was around vulnerability, and how inadvertently I'd been modeling to my clients how to be more vulnerable and therefore more powerful and authentic in the world.
See the greater parts of my success has always come from those moments when I feel the most naked. I bring that into each and every coaching call, into my groups, into my private sessions. I tell my clients about the times when I'm feeling less than, about the times I cry, about my own self doubt and the moments I'm not proud of.
And it empowers my clients. It makes them more resilient and strong. It gives them permission to do the same, to stop holding back, to stop worrying about appearing perfect or knowledgeable or guru-ish. It means they can say to a client "I apologize for I know I held back on you" or "I know exactly how you feel, for I was just there myself" because they've been on the receiving end of that and know how it's a game changer.
It seems like it would have the reverse effect, that my admitting to the chinks in my professional armor would lessen their image of me. It does the opposite... for the more human I am the more trust they can place in my hands.
And I hadn't really realized the full impact on me showing up as FULLY me had on my clients until I received that note.
Everyone promoting marketing for coaches talks about being more authentic, while showing glimmering photos of themselves with arms up in ecstasy with their life of ease and wealth... that's bull shit. We, ALL OF US, have moments of glory AND moments frustration. Why show only the authentic parts of ourselves that have been scrubbed clean? I was confused for years about that authenticity really means.
Until I realized that in those moments of vulnerability, that's where real magic was created. That's where real breakthroughs happened. That's where coaching transformed from sage advice to fully embodied transformation.
That's what I do... I didn't understand, but our purpose is driven by this need to draw out all parts of ourselves and feel unrestrained love for the shadow and the light. Want to be a more impact-filled coach? Take my hand. Be the YOU that is true.
Join me on a journey where you are celebrated and held and lifted... filling 2 groups right now for my lovely coaches. One for those on the beginning of their path and one for those who are well into their journey reaching for deeper levels of Mastery. We play this game of strengthening your inner world and allowing it to shine out... because that's the true path to your success, to the millions of shining lights of gold waiting to be claimed by you. Message me and we'll talk.
Let's find YOU and YOUR VOICE and share it with the world.
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